Different strokes to different folks, I do respect that. I’m on the side of the folks who believe in marriage. View on this can be rooted and was solidified based on personal experiences, family background & personal satisfaction. Back on college days, i would hear a lot of superficial declaration that she will not get married unless she becomes successful. Nobody would agree nor negate, who would care anyways but those were the age when our principle is not as strong as we thought we were. Each of us has different definition of success so the connotation of equating success with profession is a complete fallacy.
Another scenario of women who pre-imposed that they would never get married but would end being one is something understandable for me. As one of the factors that I mentioned- personal satisfaction, plays a big role on this situations. There can be a stage in life when one feels secure and “thought satisfied” being in a relationship without the blessing and commitment of marriage. Change is inevitable and constant and when the point comes when level of satisfaction of the woman points her to the direction that she thought one would not cruise, unimaginable change can happen. Satisfying oneself psychologically to the sense of security when old and gray is a big push to that unimaginable change. It has been in the discussion of The View when Joy Behar was teased about her change of mind in getting married with live-in partner of twenty years. Joy points out the pratical aspects that made her decide in getting married soon. The question of “who will pull the plug?!”, legally the spouse has the right to do it, even when it can be written at times this can be contested. Well, this is one of the factors but for me if the couple is thinking of being together and can foresee the years ahead why not legally bind it and live the title of being married. Never focus on what will happen, things that will happen is something beyond our control. Life has time to deal on those when it happen. The substance of security is alone can be satisfying to a woman and I believe with men too.
The fear that the marriage will not work should not be the reason why one avoids the “M” word. There is no such thing as assurance that a couple could live happily ever after. Nobody knows, not a single soul. Risk is fifty percent of the package when one take a plunge.
When one say past is past… this also applies that whatever negative things happened before will not meant to happen again. Oh yes! it may happen but the thing is it may not too!… I believe that using your best judgment alongside your heart can be a fierce weapon to avoid the history repeating itself.
Family’s mistakes can be a very big factor is perceiving marriage. A wise adult though should and must learn from our root’s mistakes. Instead of focusing the shield of fear we should focus on strengthening the factors that made them weak and volatile. Create a strong principle by living the life not of perfection but life without the flaw that you saw from your folks who broke you apart.
Married life is beautiful. The problems that comes with it makes us a better and ultimately a wise person. Being tagged as intellectual is far less substantial than being called a wise man for me. Yes, at times it’s painful but only after those days you can taste a better perspective in life, making us stronger to face life and fore mostly giving us reasons how we should live a wonderful life. Well, as of to date, I love my marriage life!
married last March 22nd in La Jolla, CA. I remember her as Winnie, the love interest of Fred Savage in the hit series “The Wonder Years”. Danica graduated cum laude with BS Mathematics in UCLA.
married last January in a posh Malibu Estate.
Having a bouquet of flowers with a dainty wedding dress of your choice can make every bride a princess on that special day. Fresh flowers is a must for me, a simple hand tied flowers in season and accentuated with ribbon and pearl head pins just makes a perfect wedding bouquet. Before I decided to make my own wedding bouquet, I searched online for the store in San Francisco where I could buy the bouquet and end up very disappointed because of the price. The wedding bouquet that caught my attention but not quite what my heart sings costs $145 plus delivery charge. It doesn’t make sense for me. I was planning also to give a small bunches of flowers to all the girls in my wedding so it will cost me so much if I’m going to buy everything from the flower shop. The most important thing in personalizing my bouquet is I get to choose the style & color that I really love and get to customize the thickness of the bouquet that I could comfortably hold.
friend rather bag, bag and bags… and I will stand by my opinion. Depending to where I’m heading for the day, I basically love big bags although it’s not meant to be packed. I just love the idea of putting and getting things from my bag without difficulty. The day outside the house without my bag is like without my undie!… Price of the bag is insignificant for me, as long as I like the look and feel, it’s sold!. I use different kind of bag when my husband and I were out of town. There’s this one Nike laundry type backpack that we purchased years back for $10 and still in use when we travel nowadays.
I used to hate Wine, any kind of wine. The sour and bitter taste gave me enough reasons to feel so, well I’ve never been a fan of alcohol based drink… but that was then! …to remind you. Now, my appreciation for red wine is a big turnaround. The rich, fruity & bold smell of it is a big enticement for me. The big push to like it is mainly the benefits that I heard and read. The concern for benefits comes with the age, I guess…you know what I mean.
opted to have a Wine Train which is a four-hour winery tour that serves four course lunch with wine pairing upon request. Since there are tons of wineries to visit we decided to choose couple of wineries during the trip that we would visit for wine tasting after the Wine Train experience. Oh! I have to mention too that during the ride in the Wine Train, you can’t get off. You just get to admire the view of vast wineries as the train rolls in a slow paced mode.
The food in the train was impressive by the way. I got my well-done lamb that was so tender and tasty with baby potatoes & veggies. The gravy was enough for me to say that the food was sinfully good. My husband had grilled chicken in polenta and veggies which I tasted of course… It was good and he loved it. I should know since chicken is the only meat he eats and when he doesn’t like it only a piece of meat will be trimmed off but this time the plate was clean.
On our second day, we headed to 
